As you all know, I have moved back home a few days ago to help my mom take care of my dad who has just suffered a stroke. Moving in with my parents is no big deal for me, but many of my friends feel like it’s something to be ashamed of. I know, for a lot of people, moving back home means
1.) You’ve lost your job and/or
2.) You failed to make it big somewhere and you have no other option but to go back home.
People (especially nosy neighbors and relatives) will think you’re a failure and this is probably one of the reasons why most people dread moving back home. But, in my case, I couldn’t care less.
There are Perks and un-Perks to moving back in with my parents. Let’s talk about the perks first. Obviously, the first on the list would be having everything for free! Yup, I don’t have to pay rent nor have to pay for my laundry. I get free meals and free access to internet! Yey! Next would be the comfort of eating home-cooked meals. Nothing tastes better than home-cooked meals. I lived off microwave meals and instant noodles when I was living alone, so being able to eat real food at home is quite satisfying. I wouldn’t mind gaining a few pounds with my mum’s cooking—they’re simply the best.
Another perk to moving back in with my parents is I could spend more time with them. I haven’t been home a lot in 8 years so my mum treats me like I’m 8 years old again. She keeps asking whether I’ve eaten or not. She keeps telling me to sleep early. She fusses over me not eating breakfast and so on. You get the picture, right? It can be annoying at times but it’s all cool. I like having someone who worries over me a lot.
Since I take care of dad when mum’s not around, I get to spend time with my old man a lot. My dad has trouble talking so we found a way to get around this problem by making him write out the words on my iPad. Sometimes he just tells me to get things for him, and sometimes he asks a lot of questions like
“Are you seeing someone?”
“When are you getting married?”
These questions make me feel all awkward around my dad because it simply means he expects me to get married sooner.
Although living at home as its perks, there’s also what I call un-perks. The first would have to be having to completely surrender your privacy. I always have to tell my mum where I’m heading out, who I’m going out with, what time I’m going home, who I’m talking to on the phone and so on and on. Bummer, I feel like pre-pubescent again. Note for those who are planning to move back in with their parents: don’t expect to have any privacy at all.
Another un-perk would be telling your friends you’re living with your parents. I earlier how people tend to think lowly of you when they find out you’re living with your parents. I used to feel really bad when people ask me where I’m living because I know they’d raise their eyebrows and think “What a loser”. If you’re trying to date someone and you end up telling them you live with your parents—trust me, the feeling of shame is 10x worse. I just literally sucks out your pride. Thankfully, I’ve gotten over that feeling already.
Despite the un-perks of moving back in with mum and dad, I am genuinely happy to live with them again after how many years. I, for one, know that if ever things go bad, there’s always a place where I am welcome with open arms. My mum and dad won’t turn me away no matter what.